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lucky_luke
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I'll add you, then you can poke me
Cause you know, the secret poke is how guys let a chick know "hey I see you gurl"
But without their gf or wife knowing it
Are you going to poke me back or kick me? Lol
So my question for you... Based on your experience or things you've learned do girls secret poke boys?
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lucky_luke
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You've been a user here on the site almost a year more than me. What is a thing that you've change due to the things you've seen, lived, noticed here? Or you're dealing with people/things around here like you did when you firstly joined?
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Hubby_Home_Alone
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LOL I think women give more subtle hints. Liking your fb posts, or commenting on your posts. Then wait for the guy to make the first messenger pm LOL
many things have changed about me since beginning. There was a time last year when I let many barriers down with lots, so that they could get to know me personally. The real me. But it just comes with so many complications sometimes. That around 2020, I just put barriers back up and Im super selective about letting people have something like my skype. And even more selective if they get to know the real me once they have it.
Im a really chatty person and will have random conversations daily.
But getting to know people online really takes a long time. People can initially "click" in the beginning but over time decide there's too many disconnects with personality or such. So knowing the success of friendships aren't so high, Im less of a risk taker these days to make that dedicated effort.
It's better in lots of ways to keep things really casual, light hearted and guarded. Ease into more trust over time.
Back again! One light hearted question and another bit more serious question.
1. When did Dr. Pepper become your favorite drink? It's been mine for ages. Have been making an effort to cut back the last several months though myself
2. You discussed this a bit in your response to another question above, but if you don't mind expounding a bit... Can you make a mental connection with someone you never meet in person (i.e., someone you only talk online to)? If so, does it take a specific type of person to make this type of connection with?
1. When did Dr. Pepper become your favorite drink? It's been mine for ages. Have been making an effort to cut back the last several months though myself
2. You discussed this a bit in your response to another question above, but if you don't mind expounding a bit... Can you make a mental connection with someone you never meet in person (i.e., someone you only talk online to)? If so, does it take a specific type of person to make this type of connection with?
Only been within the last 3 years. I had actually stopped drinking pop for 5 years. During that time mostly drank Powerade, (Mango was my fav. )Also drank alot of 'Peace' cold teas, water / flavoring in water
Then like 3 yrs ago someone had some ice cold Pepsi and I wanted that carbonated taste so bad. Ugh, I drank it and been addicted to pop since lol. It's a love/hate relationship
Most definitely. I have made those connections. But only a few times in 3 years. It takes a certain combinations of ingredients I think?
Now, not all of those connections were in a romantic way. For example, one was a friendship that I made early on, one was with someone who I had the deepest conversations of life with. He was so very different from me. But a very intelligent man. Great at conversation, and it was easy to get lost in a 2 hr talk with him. Then another person was a friend that I came to care for over time.
But it's rare. Or rare for me anyways.
Firstly, I want to say it wasn't with people who I would have anticipated lol. Which made it all more interesting.
But it also required over time, of each of us, making ourself raw and vulnerable. Which is really difficult online. It requires certain trust, a certain feel of security that they will understand or not judge. A willingness to give and take.
I think another key part that drawn me to them was they could read me easily. In a profound way, sometimes which is unnerving
LOL
They were just able to watch me closely, listen closely, dissect and see me in ways that I didn't have to express. All my qualities and traits. And they didnt see my flaws. As much as, even in failure, they could see past that and only see what intentions I try to have. Which is huge. Because Im perfectly flawed!
And with 2 in particular that sorta became my rock to lean on. When things were fallin apart or I needed to release, I could go to them. I know what it's like to be that ear for others. And it's easy for me to vent to many. But to really express certain emotions, I struggle a lil more. And usually I have to see a certain strength in someone, for me to actually go to them with feelings. Which is maybe why strength is an attraction to me?
If you are more so curious of whether I have gotten attached to anyone from fcn. The answer is yes. I have caught feelings before. Just never dated and taken it into a serious relationship.
I don't say 'No or never' to the idea. But overall, I find this environment difficult and full of challenges. Its a huge leap of faith, I would never rush into. But who knows. Maybe one day, I might become domesticated LOL
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lucky_luke
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I've noticed that many people are following you but you follow none. I'd like to think that there are people around here that you like (with some you're probably friends) so why aren't they on your following list?
Well couple reasons really.
Firstly, Im kinda awkward with following people. Idk, for me it feels like I don't want those who chat in the rooms, to think Im watching their every log in and out. LOL crazy I know..but it's true
Added to that, when Im really involved in fcn, I roam all over. And find it easy enough to see whoever I want in the chat rooms, and to find content by searches on forum. So I dont feel that huge need to have the
'following' extra help
And lastly..there are times that aquaintances or friends stop talking. Which results in unfollowing..and thats meh
Lol
So yea, I just havnt made a following list in over 2 years I think?
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lucky_luke
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I completely understand your other reasons. I just quoted that one cause yeah its really awkward or as you said meh when they unfollow lol. The worst is when after some period of time they start following you again for what exactly ? Lmao
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lucky_luke
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Do you have a favorite Disney character, if yes which one and why?
Lol yea!
But theres loads I like, consider friends, or look forward to seeing their content on forum. Maybe I should make a list
Might be a project I do and surprise everyone with one day lol
Belle
Loved the Beauty and the Beast storyline. She seen under that hard exterior he had
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lucky_luke
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Is it going to be like a super secret mission? Something like mission impossible ghost protocol? Lol
Well scrolling through 400 to make that list, will include bypassing many dick avatarsIs it going to be like a super secret mission? Something like mission impossible ghost protocol? Lol
The mission is risky
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lucky_luke
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Thank you again for taking the time to reply and provide such a detailed response. Your answers are very thoughtful and a pleasure to read.
I totally know what you mean about the love/hate relationship with pop. It is the same way with me for Dr. Pepper. Like I freaking LOVE the taste of it, but it was to a point it was pretty much all I was drinking for a while. Couple of months ago I was like damn it, I need to make a change... and I did. I'm down to 1-2 Dr. Peppers a week. I feel better overall, but I do miss drinking it.
In my opinion I think making true mental connections with people you never meet in person should take time. Additionally, for the most part, I also think it should be rare (in other words not making those type of connections with every other person you interact with). It is hard sometimes to really know a person when all you have are written words. Now over time those written words, interactions, and exchanges can led to great connections. Like you mentioned these connections don't always need to be romantic. It can be just someone you mesh with, share certain principles/values with, or someone who just 'gets you'.
I am a curious person, but wasn't going to ask you that specifically ha! I do appreciate you answering it. You are quite kind! Couldn't agree with you more in what you say about this type of environment being difficult and having many challenges. I like to call it a 'mine field' of sorts... so much to deal with, especially for women here.
Thanks again for answering and yes, as you probably figured out, I'll be back at some point to ask more questions!
Only been within the last 3 years. I had actually stopped drinking pop for 5 years. During that time mostly drank Powerade, (Mango was my fav. )Also drank alot of 'Peace' cold teas, water / flavoring in water
Then like 3 yrs ago someone had some ice cold Pepsi and I wanted that carbonated taste so bad. Ugh, I drank it and been addicted to pop since lol. It's a love/hate relationship
I totally know what you mean about the love/hate relationship with pop. It is the same way with me for Dr. Pepper. Like I freaking LOVE the taste of it, but it was to a point it was pretty much all I was drinking for a while. Couple of months ago I was like damn it, I need to make a change... and I did. I'm down to 1-2 Dr. Peppers a week. I feel better overall, but I do miss drinking it.
In my opinion I think making true mental connections with people you never meet in person should take time. Additionally, for the most part, I also think it should be rare (in other words not making those type of connections with every other person you interact with). It is hard sometimes to really know a person when all you have are written words. Now over time those written words, interactions, and exchanges can led to great connections. Like you mentioned these connections don't always need to be romantic. It can be just someone you mesh with, share certain principles/values with, or someone who just 'gets you'.
I am a curious person, but wasn't going to ask you that specifically ha! I do appreciate you answering it. You are quite kind! Couldn't agree with you more in what you say about this type of environment being difficult and having many challenges. I like to call it a 'mine field' of sorts... so much to deal with, especially for women here.
Thanks again for answering and yes, as you probably figured out, I'll be back at some point to ask more questions!
I am glad you don't get bored with my ramblings!
Most definitely. Im a "people person". But I still know that giving so much real clarity of ourselves to people, can potentially backfire. And I do not like airing out dirty laundry. Not even irl. Not on fb. Period.
I like to be private and tell the public what I want them to know. Unfortunately some online like to do public drama with someone after a friendship or romance goes sour. I don't want to be like that..if somethings fails outside of fcn. I don't want to drag it all across fcn. Plus you just give ammo to others, to later hurt that person with. Meh
So trust is a risk, and trust and respect takes time. And tbh if you are just texting someone and not doing voice / cam and all that...it takes many months or even longer to really get a deep feel on someone. (By my expierence anyways.)
Oh geez, it's a crazy combo indeed!
You first need attraction, then match up somewhat as a person, theres time zone differences and work schedules. You have to conclude will this just be online or will we take it irl? Then people will always get flirted with in this type of environment. So if you both choose to stick around, you have to deal with trust and jealously in a realm full of so much temptation.
And thats not including the fact, you hope the person isn't hiding giant bombshell secrets from you too. LOL
Plenty here have fallen for people they thought were "single"
Added to the fact that others can use love against you. Some trying to split you up, or troll you or them to be spiteful
